Ponder on this:
“No relationship could start without a commitment to wholehearted intimacy. But in order for love to keep going, it also seems impossible to imagine partners not learning to keep a great many of their thoughts to themselves.
We are so impressed by honesty that we forget the virtues of politeness; a desire not always to confront people we are about with the full, hurtful aspects of our nature.
Repression, a degree of restraint, and a little dedication to self-editing belong to love just as surely as a capacity for explicit confession. The person who can’t tolerate secrets, who in the name of “being honest” shares information so wounding to the other that it can never be forgotten – this person is no friend of love.”
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Ninos Youkhana 
Intimacy and honesty was the Garden of Eden before the Fall of Man. Total openness and honesty between the Creator and the Created — between God and Adam and Adam and Eve. When Adam and Eve sinned, they broke that trust and hid their sin. They feared rejection. They feared disappointing their Creator.
And so it has been ever since. Fear and loss and shame and hurt.